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¡HAZ EL 2014 TU MEJOR AÑO!

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El 2013 ya llega a su fin , y este es el momento perfecto para reflexionar sobre el año que acaba y planear para el año que entra. Entender tus metas para el próximo año y las acciones que tendrás que tomar para poder conseguirlas, te dará un gran impulso y te ayudará a mantenerte en el camino para lograr todas esas cosas que realmente quieres en el 2014.

Aquí tenéis mis “top 5” propuestas para que el 2014 sea vuestro mejor año :

1 . TIEMPO DE RECONOCERTE A TI MISMO

En esta época del año es tan fácil de pensar en esas cosas que no logramos , los errores que cometimos en el camino, las enfermedades o accidentes que tuvimos, las oportunidades que perdimos, etc. Sin embargo, lo que es más importante en este momento es realmente tomar el tiempo para sentarse y pensar en las cosas que logramos, sean grandes o pequeñas, como los acontecimientos en los que tomamos parte, de celebrar el tiempo que pasamos con nuestros seres queridos, o con grandes amistades, si hicimos increíbles excursiones o viajes, o los logros de aquellas cosas que nos habíamos planteado conseguir, etc. Al completar este ejercicio, la mayoría de nosotros nos daremos cuenta de que en realidad hay más positivos de lo que pensábamos en un principio, y tomar el tiempo para apreciarlos y celebrarlos será una herramienta muy valiosa para seguir logrando y construyendo éxitos en el 2014.

ACCIÓN: Piensa en esas cosas que necesitas apreciar del 2013, tus éxitos, tus triunfos, tus logros y momentos especiales, y anota al menos 5 cosas buenas que sucedieron en el 2013 .

Por ejemplo, mis 5 mejores logros personales para 2013 fueron:

– Completar mis estudios de Coaching Avanzado.

– El lanzamiento de mi propia empresa de coaching y consultora, Global Room.

– Poder viajar a Australia y España para visitar a mi familia y seres queridos.

– Completé mi primer media maratón, y varios después.

– Comenzé clases de yoga (las resistí por más de 3 años , y ahora estoy locamente enamorada del yoga!)

 

2 . LECCIONES

Yo no sé vosotros, pero en el 2013 cometí muchos errores, y fallé en muchas cosas también, y no llegué a alcanzar algunas de las metas que me propuse al principio. Para mi esta experiencia fue parte de una gran curva de aprendizaje que me ha permitido crecer y cambiar de rumbo , lo que me ha hecho ser más sabia y más fuerte. Ya que los errores son una gran oportunidad para aprender, el siguiente paso a completar seria tomar el tiempo para reflexionar sobre las lecciones que hemos aprendido de esas experiencias que quizás no fueron tan buenas, pues esas lecciones nos permitirán enfrentarnos a circunstancias similares en el próximo año de una manera más proactiva y asi tomar mejores decisiones , lo que hará a consigamos mejores resultados.

ACCIÓN: Pregúntate a ti mismo , ¿qué lecciones ha aprendido en el trabajo? Y en tu vida? Anota las 3 mejores lecciones que aprendiste en el trabajo y las 3 mejores lecciones que aprendiste en tu vida en general.

Por ejemplo, mis 3 mejores lecciones en el trabajo fueron las siguientes:

1 .La redes sociales están aquí para quedarse , aprende a aceptarlo y haz buen uso de ellas. Sólo porque no sabes algo, no significa que no puedas llegar a ser bueno en ello.

2 . Si tratas de ayudar a todo el mundo , la gente tendrá problemas para identificarse con lo que tienes que ofrecer. Habla de lo que mejor sabes, tu área de especialización , y enfoca tu tiempo en ello .

3 . Si algo parece demasiado duro, probablemente estás complicando las cosas demasiado. Tómate el tiempo para revisar tu plan y simplificalo hasta el punto en el que sientas que puedes manejar la situación.

Mis 3 mejores lecciones de la vida fueron:

1 . Que mi cuerpo es mi templo. Aprende a escucharlo, porque me dara toda la sabiduría que necesito tener para poder hacer todas las cosas que quiero en esta vida . Si sigo ignorando las advertencias de mi cuerpo , terminaré estresada, lesionada e incapaz de seguir mis pasiones.

2 . Que tengo que tomar en cuenta mi respiración, pues cuando se hace corta y rápida, necesito hacer tiempo para restaurar y recuperar mis energías . Mi respiración me dice cuando estoy tratando de hacer demasiado, y debo reconocerlo y hacer algo al respecto!

3 . Que pedir ayuda no es algo de lo que debo avergonzarme. He conocido a gente con dones y cualidades increíbles que están dispuestos a compartir su sabiduría sin ningún tipo de agenda. Pedir ayuda no te hace débil , en realidad te hace más fuerte.
3 . EMPIEZA MIRANDO HACIA ADELANTE

Ahora es el momento de mirar al 2014 . ¿Qué esperas lograr en los próximos 12 meses? Este no es el momento de proponer metas comodas y seguras. Esta es tu oportunidad de soñar con vivir la vida que realmente quieres, de lograr cosas que nunca pensaste que podrías lograr, con el fin de vivir tu mejor año en el 2014. Para ello será necesario que salgas de tu zona de confort, y probablemente sentirás un poco de miedo . No cedas a tus miedos, ya que pronto se disiparan una vez que inicies tu viaje.

ACCIÓN: Pregúntate a ti mismo, ¿qué tendría que suceder en el 2014 para que pudiese vivir una vida feliz y satisfactoria? ¿Qué tendria que suceder para que el 2014 sea mi mejor año ? Anota las 5 cosas que deseas alcanzar a finales del 2014 . Pónlos en un lugar donde puedas verlos a diario para mantenerte enfocado y motivado. A continuación, escribe una lista de las metas que necesitas completar con el fin de lograr tus 5 principales prioridades para el 2014.
4 . PLANEALO

Finalmente , ha llegado el momento de ponerlo todo junto y de comprometerse a crear un plan que se convertirá en tu mapa o ruta a seguir durante el próximo año . Revisa a menudo este plan para asi poder concentrarte en las tareas que necesitaras completar, y asi ver los frutos de tu trabajo.

ACCIÓN: Ahora que tienes una lista de tus 5 principales prioridades, y también una lista de cuáles son los objetivos que hay que alcanzar en el año 2014 , crea plan específico , donde tendras las oportunidad de romper cada una de tus metas en acciones que sean pequeñas, alcanzables y realistas pasos, que te permitirán iniciar el proceso y completar tus objetivos dentro de un marco de tiempo dado .

Para tu plan de acción para el 2014 , trata de ser lo más específico posible, completando los pasos que deberas tomar en cada mes, incluyendo las recompensas que te vas a dar para celebrar al alcanzarlos. Asegúrate de que tomas en cuenta tus propios valores cuando decidas qué acciones emprender , ya que tus valores dictaran tu comportamiento. Si tus acciones están en consonancia con tus valores , la experiencia de trabajar hasta poder conseguir tus metas será una experiencia muy agradable.
5 . INTENTALO Y NO LO DEJES

Mi último consejo para ti será que seas amable contigo mismo. La vida tiene altibajos y es probable que experimentes un poco de ambos mientras que intentes lograr tus prioridades. Habrá victorias y derrotas , éxitos y fracasos, y momentos en los que sentirás el deseo de rendirte . En momentos como este házte la siguiente pregunta, ¿cómo me voy a sentir si le di mi mejor intento y alcancé mis objetivos y prioridades? Trata de visualizarte a ti mismo viviendo la vida que realmente quieres, después de haber logrado todas esas cosas, e imagina la sensación de vivir esa vida. Despues, piensa en cómo te sentirás si dejas que tus miedos y dudas te hagan rendirte y tirar la toalla, ¿cómo te sentirás al final del 2014?

ACCIÓN: Piensa en cuáles son los desafíos o bloqueos potenciales que podrían interferir en el logro de tus metas en el 2014. ¿Es el habito de nunca empezar algo nuevo, el miedo al fracaso , miedo al éxito, la falta de una red de apoyo, la falta de conocimientos técnicos, etc? Toma conciencia de ellos y tratar de llegar a algunas soluciones posibles que puedan ayudarte a eliminar algunos de estos obstáculos que puedan surgir. Y por encima de todo, entiende que la vida no es perfecta, tu no eres perfecto y no todos los días van a ir de acuerdo al plan. Intenta seguir adelante, sin pararte, tomando pasos mucho mas pequeños si es necesario por un tiempo, hasta que pueda manejar los más grandes, y continua en tu viaje de cambio y logros.

Lo importante es seguir intentándolo, avanzar hacia la obtención de esas cosas que siempre quisiste . Y te prometo que, si no cedes, si lo sigues intentando, si continuas haciéndolo lo mejor que puedas la mayoría del tiempo, vas a lograr cosas que nunca creiste posibles.

Invertir algo de tiempo completando los pasos que propongo te pondrán en muy buena forma para lograr cosas extraordinarias en el próximo año. Y si no quieres hacerlo solo, entonces ponte en contacto conmigo para una consulta gratuita de 30 min sin compromiso para ayudarle a decidir si el coaching es adecuado para ti . Brindo porque el 2014 sea tu mejor año !

 

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Isabel Valle ACC ACTP

Coach Global

Fundadora de Global Room

Make 2014 your best year yet!

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As 2013 comes to an end, this is just the perfect time to reflect on the year and come up with a plan for 2014. Having an understanding of your goals for the coming year and the actions you will need to take will give you great momentum and will help you stay on track to achieving all those things you really want.

Here are my 5 top tips in order to make 2014 your best year yet:

1.     TIME TO ACKNOWLEDGE YOURSELF

At this time of the year it is so easy to think about those things we didn’t achieve, the mistakes we made along the way, the illnesses or accidents we had, opportunities we missed, goals we failed, etc.

However, what is most important at present is to really take the time to sit down and think about those things we did achieve, however big or little; the great events we took part of, celebrate our time with loved ones, great friendships, amazing trips or journeys we got to make, etc. Most of us will come to realise that there were more positives than we originally thought, and taking time to appreciate them and celebrate them will be an invaluable tool for us to continue to build on in 2014.

ACTION: Think about those things that you need to appreciate yourself for, your successes, your wins, achievements and special moments, and write down at least 5 good things from 2013.

My personal top 5 achievements for 2013 were:

–          Completing my Advanced Coaching Studies

–          Launching my own Coaching and Mentoring company, Global Room

–          Being able to go back to Australia and Spain to spend quality time with family and loved ones.

–          Running my first half marathon

–          Taking up yoga (I resisted this for over 3 years, now I am madly in love with it!)

 

2.     LESSONS LEARNT

I don’t know about you, but in 2013 I made many mistakes, failed at many things too, and didn’t get to achieve goals that I initially intended. It was all part of a great learning curve that allowed me to grow and change course, which made me wiser and stronger.

You see, mistakes are a great opportunity to learn, and so taking the time to reflect on the lessons that we learnt from those not so good experiences will allow us to face similar circumstances in the year ahead in a more proactive way and make better choices, which will make us get better results.

ACTION: Ask yourself, what lessons did you learn at work? And in your life? Write down the top 3 lessons you learnt at work and the top 3 lessons you learnt in life.

My top 3 lessons at work were:

  1. Social Media is here to stay, learn to embrace it and make good use of it. Just because you don’t know something, it doesn’t mean you cannot become good at it.
  2. If you try to help out everybody, people will have trouble identifying with what you have to offer. Stick to what you know best, your area of expertise, and go with it.
  3. If it seems too hard you are probably overcomplicating things. Take time to review your plan and simplify it to the point where you feel you can handle it.

My top 3 lessons in life were:

  1. My body is my temple. Learn to listen to my body, for it will give me all the wisdom I need to have about doing all the things I want from life. If I keep ignoring my body’s warning signs, I will end up stressed, injured and unable to pursue my passions.
  2. Notice my breathing, for when it gets short and fast, it is time to take some time to restore and re-energize. My breathing tells me when I am trying to do too much, acknowledge it and do something about it!
  3. Don’t be embarrassed to ask for help. I have met amazing people who possess amazing gifts and qualities and are happy to share their wisdom. Asking for help doesn’t make you weak, it actually makes you stronger.

 

3.  START LOOKING AHEAD

Now it is time to look at 2014. What are you hoping to achieve in the next 12 months? This is not the time to be safe and come up with some small, comfortable ideas. This is your opportunity to dream about living the life you really want, having achieved things you never thought you could, in order to have lived your best year yet. This will require you to stretch yourself out of your comfort zone and you will probably feel a bit scared. Don’t give in to your fears, as they will soon dissipate once you start your journey.

 

ACTION: Ask yourself, what would need to happen in 2014 in order for me to live a happy, meaningful and satisfying life? What would it need to happen in order for 2014 to be my best year yet? Write down the top 5 things that you want to achieve by the end of 2014. Put them somewhere where you can look at them daily to help you stay focused and motivated. Then write down a list of goals that you will need to complete in order to achieve your top 5 priorities for 2014.

 

4.     PLAN FOR IT

Finally, the time has come to put it all together and commit to a plan that will become your road map for the year ahead. Keep your eye on it to stay focused on the task at hand, and see the rewards of your work become a reality in 2014.

 

ACTION: Now that you have a list of your top 5 priorities, and also a list of what goals you need to achieve in 2014, put them down into a specific plan, and spend some time breaking down each goal into small, achievable, realistic steps, that will allow you to start the process and to complete your goals within a given time frame.

In your 2014 action plan, try to be as specific as you can, on a month by month basis, including milestones and rewards that you will give yourself to celebrate for achieving them.

Make sure that you take into account your own values when deciding what actions to undertake, as your values dictate your behaviour.  If your actions steps are in line with your values, you will find the journey of achieving your goals a very enjoyable experience.

 

5.     DO YOUR BEST

My last tip for you will be to be gentle with yourself. Life has ups and downs and you will probably experience a bit of both in trying to achieve your priorities. There will be wins and losses, successes and failures, and times when you will feel like giving up. At times like this ask yourself the following question, how will I feel I gave it my best try and achieved my goals and priorities? Try to visualize yourself living the life you really want, having achieved all those things, and imagine the feeling living that life. Then, think about how you will feel if you gave in to your fears and doubts and quit trying; how will you feel at the end of 2014?

ACTION: Think about what potential challenges or blocks you may come against in trying to achieve your goals for 2014. Is it procrastination, fear of failure, fear of success, a poor support network, a lack of know-how? What these may be for you, become aware of them and try and come up with some possible solutions that may help you remove these obstacles when they arise. Above all, understand that life is not perfect, you are not perfect and not all days will go according to plan. Gently push yourself to get back on your journey, and if things get hard, take smaller steps for a while, until you can manage bigger ones.

The important thing is to keep trying, moving forward towards getting those things you always wanted. And I promise you, if you don’t give in, if you keep trying, if you just do your best most of the time, you will achieve things you never thought possible.

Investing some time in working on the above steps will place you in great shape for achieving extraordinary things in the year ahead.

And if you don’t want to do it alone, then contact me for a free 30 min no obligation consultation to help you decide if coaching is right for you.

Here’s to making 2014 your best year yet!

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Isabel Valle ACC ACTP

Global Coach

Founder of Global Room

Have you ever wondered why you think or communicate the way you do?

“Knowing others is intelligence; knowing yourself is true wisdom. Mastering others is strength; mastering yourself is true power.” Lao Tzu

If you are looking for a quick tool to help you better understand yourself – and others – immediately, then take a DISC profile test. In no more than 20 minutes, you’ll have a better understanding of yourself and the way you operate, and insights into how you can communicate with others more effectively.

WHAT IS DISC?

DISC is a profiling assessment tool used as a method for understanding behavior, temperament, and personality. A DISC Profile provides a comprehensive overview of the way that people think, act, and interact. It is the most widely used profiling tool of its kind, and is supported by decades of validation and reliability studies.

The DISC Personality Profile is based on the work of renowned psychologist Dr. William Moulton Marston. He developed the DISC Personality Profile after studying the personality traits, behavioral patterns, and instinctual reactions of thousands of individuals. As a result of his work, Marston developed the DISC assessment as a tool to measure four primary behavioral traits:

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The DISC Personality Profile identifies patterns of behavior, and can be used to implement solutions for maximizing an individual’s strengths and minimizing weaknesses. The DISC Personality Profile is used in a wide variety of settings, including business, education, sales, coaching, and counselling. Primary applications of the DISC Personality Profile include:

  • Strengthening communication skills
  • Building leadership abilities
  • Diffusing interpersonal conflict
  • Choosing attainable goals
  • Boosting performance and productivity
  • Increasing motivation
  • Strengthening workplace skills
  • Constructing strong teams
  • Making smart hiring decisions

The DISC Profile (or DISC Assessment) is one of the most well known and accepted assessment tools to ever be developed.

DISC is a user-friendly, fun and very applicable common language which, once properly understood between two people, will lead to improved communication, less conflict and deeper levels of mutual trust. DISC is a simple but powerful tool to use in developing teams, communication programs, conflict resolution, sales effectiveness, and any other training associated with creating more effective relationships. The DISC profile provides a foundation for people to first understand themselves, second understand others and third adapt their communication style to increase communication effectiveness. The ultimate purpose of DISC is to help people improve their Emotional Intelligence (EQ).

According to Mark H McCormack, author of “What They Don’t Teach You at Harvard Business School ”, “the key to success is reading people”. What this simply means, is that the foundation of personal and professional success is to know yourself, know others and adapting oneself to the behavioural characteristics of others.

I am DISC Certified and able to use DiscAsia Plus, which offers an Asian version test of the DISC profiling system. As more and more people in Asia are using the DISC instrument,  this tool has been contextualized with the Asian culture in mind. The test can also be performed in the following 8 languagages:

1.English
2. Simplified Chinese
3. Traditional Chinese
4. Bahasa Malaysia
5. Bahasa Indonesia
6. Japanese
7. Thai
8. Vietnamese

The key to using DISC personality testing effectively is to understand that whatever your DISC personal profile is, it is just perfect for you. There are no good or bad profiles.

No matter what your profile is, there will be times when being yourself will work just fine for you, and there will be times when it doesn’t work. At times like this, when being yourself does not produce positive results for you, you need to be able to adapt your thinking and behaviour to be more effective:

Adaptable Behaviour

Knowing your own DISC style is helpful in understanding your own natural behavioural tendencies and how to meet your individual needs. But when building relationships with others – something we all have to do – knowing how to adapt your behaviour to improve relationships with other people improves communication and creates win/win solutions.

If you want your co-workers to work well with you and give their best, then you need to be aware of your behaviour and the impact you have on your work relationships. DISC assessments make this easy.

The DISC model also describes behaviours that are also easily recognisable in other people. Not only can you develop a better understanding of your own needs and behaviour, you can also build a deep understanding of the people around you, their unique needs and why they behave the way they do.

Thousands of organisations – large and small – have transformed their workplace environment through DISC assessments.

Are you ready to know more about yourself or those working in the organization?

Prices start from as little as $150 per assessment.

Contact me to arrange a consultation on globalroom@isabelvalle.com, or via phone on +673 897 8825.

Till next time!

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Isabel Valle ACC ACTP

Global Coach

Founder of Global Room

 

 

Are you a passionate leader?

Leadership is no longer about position – but passion.

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In leadership, passion is an undoubtedly a required key element for a leader. In life and at work, people who are successful and achieve great things have passion. In our quest for success, it is therefore important to find the areas that we are passionate about, then stay focused on them.

In order to find our passions, finding our purpose and our own individual strengths helps us when it comes to creating passion. In coaching, one of the very first steps we undertake is to identify one’s purpose, values and strengths, in order to understand ourselves better, and to better strategize to how to get to where we want to go with our own individual set of skills.

When a leader has passion, the following things occur around them:

1.     Passion generates energy

A passionate leader moves forward by the very own energy it produces. In leading yourself and others, passion and energy are crucial. Donald Trump said, “Without passion, you don’t have energy; without energy, you have nothing.” Leaders who have passion also bring energy into what they do.

2.     Passion drives vision

In order for leaders to be able to accomplish their vision and goals, they need to be passionate about the vision itself. They need to be able to communicate their vision to others in a way that conveys that passion, so that others see the value of it and want to be part of it.

3.     Passion is contagious

Passion generates a type of energy that rubs off on people. I have come across many leaders that I am instantly inspired by, just by their infectious passion for a subject or vision. These leaders are able to engage and motivate others into action.

4.     Passion = Influence

When a leader has passion, others take notice. When others take notice and are influenced by the leader, then others want to also be part of it. It is infectious. Passion is like a gel that blends people together.

5.     Passion creates new possibilities

A leader’s passion is able to bring new opportunities and possibilities and opens the door to success. When leaders are passionate about what they are doing, it moves them closer to their own potential, which causes them to challenge and stretch themselves and move into the next level within their career and personal journey.

Are you living with passion? How do you bring this passion into your work or daily life?

As Field Marshal Ferdinand Foch once said, “the most powerful weapon on earth is the human soul on fire.” Find that fire inside yourself, then find ways express it. You will never look back!

Till next time!

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Isabel Valle ACC ACTP

Global Coach

Founder of Global Room

Cultivate your strengths

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We all possess a unique set of qualities or talents, areas in which we naturally do great at. Being able to recognize those will be one of the best exercises you could ever do, since greatness is created through one’s strengths.

Examples of strengths could be being adaptable, analytical, passionate, a good communicator, ability to connect with people, creative, independent, strategic, honest, good sense of humour, etc.

Do you enjoy doing things that you’re actually not good at? Most of us would answer no to this question, and yet we are so used to spending most of our time and energies into working on how we can improve our weaknesses, which can leave us feeling frustrated and unfulfilled. As we compare ourselves to other’s strengths, we may get so fixated in “fixing” those areas that we are not good at, that we leave untapped potential for growth, by investing and cultivating our own strengths, instead of using our energy to try and correct our deficiencies.

But what if we had the opportunity to do what we do best every day? What benefits would this new perspective bring to our lives? Just to name a few:

–          Better job satisfaction

–          Better quality of life

–          Increased confidence (knowing that you are making a difference as a direct result of using your own talents)

–          A more positive outlook in life

–          Improved engagement and positivity at work

–          Improved relationships

So what to do with one’s weaknesses? It is always helpful to be aware of those areas where you may not be as talented, especially if you are required to perform some of those at work. Bringing awareness to your developmental gaps allows you to become resourceful in managing them. Nowadays there is an array of solutions and options to address those areas you may lack. Partnering with others whose strengths are your very own weaknesses is a fantastic way of improving overall results.

Reflection:

What are your strengths? How do you make use of your own unique talents at work / in your everyday life?

What is it that you could do to cultivate your strengths?

What areas do you consider to be your weaknesses? What could you do to manage them?

 

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Investing the time to get to know yourself and how to live your life in the way you want could be one of the best investments of your life. But most of us cannot do it alone, we need to leverage the wisdom and experience of other people in order to get the results we want. We also need other people to believe in us in those moments when we’ve given up on ourselves.

 

In coaching, success is all yours, you do it on your own. You make the decisions and make it happen. A coach is there helping you understand who you are and what you want, empowering you to take action to move towards achieving it all, in a way that gets you out of your comfort zone and into areas you may not have been able to explore or venture into on your own. A coach will guide and inspire you to believe in all your amazing qualities and talents, in a completely safe and confidential environment.

 

Are you ready to change? Do you want to be successful but don’t know how? Are you looking for something else to give you purpose and direction? Then contact me to find out how coaching can help you, with a free, no obligation consultation.

Till next time!

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Isabel Valle ACC ACTP

Global Coach

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What’s wrong with me?

What’s wrong with me? Have you ever asked yourself that question? This used to be such a prevalent question of mine. Throughout my entire life I felt as if I was different from most people, and therefore my assumption was to believe that there was something wrong with me, and everyone else out there was normal, at least they all seemed normal to me.

I worked so hard at trying to be like everyone else, so I would feel like I could “fit in” and feel “normal” like the rest of the world.

I couldn’t understand why I wouldn’t be able to do things, or think about things, or interact with people the way I saw others do it so naturally, which made me lack in confidence.

I truly felt like I belonged to a very rare group of people who wouldn’t be accepted by others if they truly let themselves show.

But then something amazing happened. Through coaching, I was able to discover who I really was, and then gain some insights as to how my personality traits and overall behaviours were just a very normal and typical way of behaving of people like me, which in fact there were many, called introverts.

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You always hear about people being different, coming in all sorts of shapes. However when applied to yourself, how many of you do you actually take the time to find out who you really are?

At the most basic level, this world is shared by a mix of extroverts and introverts. It is fair to say that extroversion is a more desirable personality trait than introversion. But in a world where nothing is black and white, we need to find where in the middle we stand, and then learn how we can use our own personality traits and behaviours to our full advantage.

In learning to understand who I was, I felt an immediate sense of relief, validation and empowerment to use this newly gained knowledge to my advantage. Nowadays I embrace my way of being and I have created a structure and ways of interacting with the world at large in a way that keeps me inspired, energised and committed to continue to grow and develop my own natural abilities.

And the best of all, in knowing who I am, I no longer feel like there is something wrong with me; on the contrary, it is thanks to being who I am, that I am able to do what I do, and that makes me feel special. So how are you special?

Chances are that no matter who you are, or where you come from, you will at times feel like you are the only person in the planet who feels different, or wrong. But in reality, we all feel like that at one point or another. Embrace your uniqueness and individuality, move away from the crowd and become the resourceful and creative person you are meant to become.

And for those of you introverts out there (regardless of the degree of introversion), let me share an article by Karl Kingdom, which will hopefully shed some light and validation of your own.

This article is not meant to provide a one sided opinion on the subject at all, just provide light and gain a deeper understanding of our reasons for interacting with the world. In knowing the reasoning behind our behaviours, we are able to then become proactive and engage with the world in a more efficient way, one that re-energizes us, rather than drain and confuse us.

10 Myths About Introverts

 

 

 

 

What are you tolerating?

 

We tend to get dragged down and overwhelmed by things that accumulate over time – and end up cluttering our minds – and our businesses.

In many cases you may not want to do anything about them right now, but getting into the habit of writing them out in paper will help you offload some of those things, and will also allow you to increase your awareness of what actually needs to be done, which in turn will help you to start handling them, fixing and resolving each one of them as you work through your list.

So, make a list of what you are putting up with at work or at home, or in life in general, and you will get a very good idea of what’s cluttering your mind and slowing you down, both in your personal life and work performance.

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Some examples would be incomplete tasks, any frustrations you may have, processes or procedures at work you feel are inefficient or poor practises at work, unresolved issues or problems, other people’s or your own behaviour, clutter, any “shoulds” , unmet needs, crossed boundaries, poor morale, overdue bills or invoices, lack of up-to-date practises at work, guilt, any exercise / eating / sleep habits, office or home cleanliness / tidiness, indecision, procrastination, etc.

Now is the time to identify and get clear about what you are currently tolerating in your life! Write as many as you can, in any order, or format, or device, then over time keep developing this list, and keep adding them as they come up.

Your mind will appreciate the offload, and you will feel relieved, as by noting things down you won’t forget, as it will stay safe in your list, for you to recover and deal with as and when required.

So, starting today, write as many things as you have lingering around in your mind.

How many did you get?

Can you identify which ones are the most important that require immediate action?

Which one out of those would you pick as your top priority?

Pick your top priority and identify an action to take right away (or in the next day or so).

Before you know it, your mind will feel lighter, and sharper, and more ready to take on the more important things in life!

And if you would like me to make you accountable for taking action, just leave me a message via my Facebook page here. There is no better motivation out there to get things done, than to make your desires public!

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Isabel Valle ACC ACTP

Global Coach

Coaching for Leadership, for Growth, for Success

 

Are you a leader?

Today I want to share with you all something that I wrote to help people bring awareness of their current life circumstances, and a tool to help you shift your current perspective for a more empowering one, which in coaching we call power tool.

My powertool is called Leader vs Victim, and I believe it would be a great exercise for everyone to complete.

I would love to hear any comments you may have about it. Have fun with it!

LEADER VS VICTIM by Isabel Valle

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Isabel Valle

Global Coach

Coaching for Leaders and Expatriates for Growth and Success

www.isabelvalle.com

http://www.facebook.com/globalroom

 

 

So what exactly is coaching?

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What is coaching?

Coaching is all about personal development. Coaching is about living with a mindset that is built around positivity and possibility. It is about helping you learn rather than teaching you. It is asking, not telling. Coaching takes the position that the individual must assume personal responsibility for his or her life, and that people have all the resources to solve their own problems. It consciously considers individuals and their unique talents and abilities.

Coaching is about having a developed sense of who you are, what you can do, where you are going coupled with the ability to manage your communication, emotions and behaviour on the way to getting there, which is what I define as self-leadership.

Twenty years ago, no one had heard of Life, Executive or Expatriate coaching. Today, coaching is one of the fastest growing industries, especially in Europe, Australia and the US. As a new profession, coaching blends the best concepts from business, psychology, philosophy, sports and spirituality. However, coaching is a distinct process of supporting others to create an ideal life.

The International Coach Federation defines coaching in the following way:

“Professional coaches provide an ongoing partnership designed to help clients produce fulfilling results in their personal and professional lives. Coaches help people improve their performances and enhance the quality of their lives.”

Coaches are trained to listen, to observe and to customize their approach to individual client needs. They seek to elicit solutions and strategies from the client; they believe the client is naturally creative and resourceful. The coach’s job is to provide support to enhance the skills, resources, and creativity that the client already has.

This is achieved by helping the client establish what is important to them and by clarifying their values. With the client’s input the coach co-creates value based goals and a plan to achieve them. Through collaboration, the coach supports the client to achieve these goals.

What Coaching is Not

Despite the blend of disciplines within coaching, the coaching industry is a unique field and there are significant differences between coaching and these fields.

 

Coaching and Therapy

Coaching is not therapy, counselling or psychology. One of the most obvious differences between the two approaches is that therapy tends to focus on feelings and experiences related to past events, whereas coaching is oriented towards goal setting and encourages the client to move forward. A therapist typically works with a dysfunctional person to get them to become functional. A coach works with a functional person to get them to become exceptional.

Coaching does not rely on past issues for achieving growth, but rather focuses on goals towards the future. Coaching is action oriented. The focus is on where the client is right now, where they want to be next, and how to get them there.

 

Coaching and Consulting

Coaching is often likened to consulting. However, there are distinct differences between these disciplines. A consultant is usually a specialist in a given area. They are hired to give recommendations and provide solutions. A consultant works with a client to solve a particular problem or to address a specific issue. Once the problem is solved or the issue addressed, the consultant leaves. Coaching uses a more holistic approach. With the client, the coach examines the situation, creates a plan of action, and works side by side to resolve the issue. The coach does not have to be an expert in the client’s business. The client is the expert. The coach collaborates with the client to create a solution using the client’s knowledge and answers.

 

Coaching and Mentoring

The mentor is usually more experienced than the person being mentored. The mentor bestows their knowledge and wisdom onto the student.

In a business setting, mentoring is a formal relationship that is established with someone who is an expert in his or her field. Like consulting, mentoring involves passing on the benefit of a set of specific experiences. A coaching relationship, on the other hand, is a partnership whereby the coach walks side by side with the client. The coach supports the client in drawing on their own wisdom and following their inner guidance.

 

How Coaching Works

Every individual’s situation is unique, thus there is no course or prescribed process which is universally applicable. Many traditional development experiences given to leaders have failed to address this problem, and so are increasingly seen as needing to be augmented by a more personalised, development process. Leadership Coaching meets that need.

Prior to committing to a coaching relationship, the coach and potential client will meet to discuss the client’s goals and results desired, the process involved, and the coach / client suitability to build a strong rapport. Then a “sample coaching session” is performed to give the client the opportunity to experience coaching first hand, prior to committing to it.

I hope the above gives you a clearer idea of coaching, and how it can help you bring your personal and / or professional life to a whole new level.

Please contact me if you have any other questions of if you would like to book a free discovery session, to see if coaching could be for you.

 

With much appreciation,

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Isabel Valle CPC ACTP

Global Coach

Coaching for Leadership, for Growth, for Success

 

Fear of failure

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I love this quote by Michael Jordan: “ I’ve missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I’ve lost more than 300 games. Twenty-six times I’ve been trusted to take the game-winning shot, and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life…and that’s why I succeed.”

Why are we so afraid of failure? Are we afraid of what failure will make us feel like? Or what others may think of us if we fail? What are we really afraid of? And why have we developed a sense that failing is something to be afraid of?

If we are afraid of failure, our ability to try new things and pursue the things we want in life is diminished. How can I start something and take a risk if ultimately I may fail? What’s the point in starting it anyway? Fear of failure keeps us in our comfort zone, hidden from a world of opportunities and possibilities, a world where we could be and do anything we set our minds to.

So what if we fail? What do we stand to lose? Will we survive?

Have you ever failed at something? How did that feel? What did you learn from it? Did you survive? Did it make you stronger or weaker? Did you ever try something you wanted, only to fail many times, and kept trying until you mastered it? I can recall many times in my own life (i.e. learning to ride my first bike, becoming a parent, learning a new language, training for my first half marathon…). And why is it that children’s ability to bounce back from failure is so much better than ours? Could it therefore be society at large that has embedded the idea that failing at something is a negative experience to go through?

But if we don’t fail, how else would we learn, and develop, and grow? How realistic is it to expect of ourselves never to fail? And what if we try something new and we fail? What would happen to us really? What’s the worst thing that can happen? Why is it so difficult to admit that we are not perfect and we make mistakes? Do you know anyone who has never made a mistake? And if we are so forgiving of others making mistakes, how come we are not able to apply to same rule to ourselves?

Starting today, start something you are afraid to start for fear you may fail. What is it?

Whenever I feel the fear prior to starting something new I ask myself, what’s the worst that can happen? How will I deal with the worst case scenario if that was to happen? How will I feel if I wasn’t to start it in the first place?

So feel the fear and do it anyway. What will you commit to start today?